Coloring My Way to Peace of Mind: How a Childhood Pastime Helped Me Adjust to Life After Cancer

Mere color, unspoiled by meaning, and unallied with definite form, can speak to the soul in a thousand different ways.--Oscar Wilde


   It's funny but while going through chemo for Stage II A Breast Cancer the last thing I wanted was to look at something ugly. This sentiment was reflected in my daily appearance, especially when I had doctor's appointments and other medical visits. Part defense mechanism, part sartorial expression my style helped me cope with my changing health and lifestyle. One of my favorite outfits-a pink tweed Chanel-esque blazer over a white ruffled trim shirt and frilly multi-tiered skirt-was made even more memorable with a pink knit cap and orange flower pin attached to my lapel. During my six hour visits, to the chemo suit, I tried to relax and daydream amidst the harsh battle that was going on inside my body. In that short period, my mind flowed from words, in the latest book I was reading to glossy photos of the season's trends and supermodels. Later, after my treatment ended, I discovered I still craved constant beauty. With my digital camera I rediscovered the "naturehood in my neighborhood" and photographed every flower, tree and sunset that caught my eye.
   "How can I immerse myself in all of this eye candy and stay awhile?" I wondered to myself as I shot frame after frame of lush wonder.
    The day I discovered adult coloring I got my answer.

White Roses on Chesapeake Avenue

What I Love About Coloring

   The first pages I ever colored were free Xerox copies of floral and leaf bedecked dresses from one of my favorite coloring books, Creative Haven's Flower Fashion Fantasies by Ming-Ju Sun. Peaceful and calming, they were a pleasant diversion from the first job I'd held since my cancer diagnosis, as a Special Education Trainee Assistant Substitute for the Los Angeles Unified School District (LAUSD). As I became more adept at my new hobby, however, I realized I could use it to help the Special Ed students I was assigned to. A teacher, for one of my Kindergarten students at Beethoven Elementary School,often asked me to help him color correctly to improve his fine motor skills. First he'd retrace over the straight and slanted lines I drew with yellow highlighter, then he'd progress to the alphabet, his name, numbers one to ten, and finally coloring a picture the teacher had given the class to do. 

   Personally I soon developed better composition techniques, design tactics, and an improved eye for subtlety, which helped me last summer when I took FASHN 9A, a fashion illustration class, at Santa Monica College. The therapeutic aspect, including "complete absorption in a project", is another reason I enjoy doing this activity alone and sharing it with students and others.

My First Coloring Page from Flower Fashion Fantasies

The Coloring Contest

It takes reality pedagogy and pedagogical strategies birthed from neoindigenous practices like the battle to bring their voices to the fore and allow their brilliance to flourish.--Christopher Emdin

   My chance to use coloring came up again when I did my one-month assignment at 74th Street Elementary School in another Resource classroom. An assigned group of students came for their appointed time, but after a few minutes we ran out of things to do academically, leaving them restless and tired. I'd printed out some free educational coloring pages, Animals from the Ice Age, from Dover Publications and gave them to the Resource teacher. The mail-order catalog said they were an excellent way for students to learn about a new subject while coloring, whether you used them for home schooling or as part of a class curriculum.

  "Do you want to work on these?" I asked them.

  They immediately agreed to do them and one student even proposed having a Coloring Contest where I selected the best picture at the end. Fortunately we had a tie because everyone did a phenomenal job and the reward was in the creative output.

Coloring Pages I've Created

   Recently, at the end of my time at Baldwin Hills Elementary School, I ran into a similar scenario when a substitute in a class I was one-on-one in became overwhelmed by a roomful of bored, hyper students. Keyed up because of a Christmas show we were putting on, I suggested giving them some coloring sheets to do. Since I worked with a Special Needs student in a fifth grade class of 30, I always kept a folder full of coloring and other activity pages on our work shelf. When I showed the sub the pages from the Snoopy Christmas Coloring Book I'd brought to use with my student, and asked her if she wanted me to copy one for the class, she said, "Yes," after choosing the one that also required decorating a Christmas tree.

   "We're going to have a Coloring Contest," she said. "After we've all finished we'll vote for the winner."

    I wish I could say I won, but when all of the entrants were laid out, one of the more talented colorists did.

Coloring Page from the Tranquil Trees Coloring Book

Color can have a huge effect on whatever you're creating."--Carey Jolliffe

   A Hue By Any Other Shade

   Depending on my mood I usually select pages that will feature hues I'm feeling at the moment. For the picture I colored for this blog, from The Tranquil Trees Coloring Book, I followed my usual procedure of selecting a photo to reproduce. Vogue magazine's October 2015 layout Interior Lives was the basis for my palette, and the Peter Pilotto dress and Derek Lam ankle boots, my inspiration. In the photo, Saturated Solution, the caption describes how the off-white dress accented with pink, orange, green and cream "arts-and-crafts embroidery" contrasts effectively against the "forest green" and "Santa Red" interiors.

   From my box of Crayola Crayons I selected green, yellow-green, vert olive, spring green, sea green, and granny smith apple for the leaves at the top of the tree, and brown, tan, chestnut, burnt sienna and tumbleweed for the bark and roots. Lastly I threw in red, orange and blue to fully replicate Pilotto's embroidery.

Monochromatic Magic Contest Entry

Color It Pink

Nothing can steal my joy.--Sarah Ranae Clark 

   For the Dover Publications' Monochromatic Magic coloring contest I chose pink for my entry, a long dress from Flower Fashion Fantasies, because it represents breast cancer awareness. Even though it's always been my favorite color, my illness gave it added significance. Everything came back to me-hospital stays, chemo, labs, etc.,-as I worked on it while sitting on the front steps of 42nd Street Elementary School (the school I was subbing at then) with my colored pencils and crayons.

Breast Cancer Awareness Day Collage

   In October 2016, at Baldwin Hills Elementary School, they decided to celebrate Breast Cancer Awareness Day instead of Halloween, so they asked everyone to show solidarity and wear pink. I wanted to also celebrate a new chapter in my recovery, so instead of wearing something I already owned I went to Target and bought a lovely orange and pink print blouse and denim Mossimo jeans from the Sale rack. Topping it off with my pink Chanel-esque jacket then accessorizing the blouse with my pink Breast Cancer ribbon scarf I approached the day with as much brightness as one of my coloring pages and with renewed hope for my future.

Adult Coloring Books:

1. Creative Haven's Flower Fashion Fantasies (www.doverpublications.com)
2. Vive Le Color JAPAN (www.lacma.org)
3. ESCAPES: (Various Titles include: Joyful Gardens, Fashion Art, Collage, Mosaics) (www.doverpublications.com) and (www.amazon.com)
4. Keep Calm and Color: Tranquil Trees (www.doverpublications.com)
5. Color Therapy: An Anti-Stress Coloring Book
6. Cancer Treatment Coloring Book: Color Your Way to Health (created by cancer survivor Julie Carmen. Ideal for those going through chemo and other treatments and therapies.
7. Coloring Through Cancer: An Adult Coloring Book with 30 Positive Affirmations to Encourage Cancer Survivors, by Sarah Ranae Clark
8. I AM A CANCER Warrior: An Adult Coloring Book for Encouragement, Strength and Positive Vibes, 20 Powerful Mantras To Color (Courageous Coloring)

Coloring Tools:

   I found most of my "coloring tools" at Target and through www.amazon.com, but you can also find them at grocery and drug stores if coloring books are available.

1. Crayola Crayons (48) Preferred by Teachers!
2. Crayola Colored Pencils Built-in Sharpener (64) Preferred by Teachers?
3. Multicolored Pencils (www.lacma.org) LACMA Gift Shop
4. Crayola Fine Line Markers (40 Vibrant Colors)
5. Prisma Color Premier Colored Pencils (72)

     

Cancer & Careers West Coast Conference

The Cancer & Careers West Coast Conference on Work & Cancer is this Saturday in LA! This FREE daylong event will explore the complexities of balancing treatment/recovery with employment and is open to patients, survivors, caregivers, healthcare professionals and anyone else touched by cancer.
There are still spots open, so register today! http://www.cancerandcareers.org/…/even…/westcoast-conference

Doctors Should Listen to Patient Instincts

Check out this post from The New York Times Well Blog by Tara Parker-Pope. Parker-Pope shares the results of a recent study that indicates that the way that patients describe how they feel to their doctors is possibly a better predictor of their health than objective tests. Read more here.

Cancer Survivors: Together We Are Less Alone

To read the article by Barbara Tako, the author of "Cancer Survivorship Coping Tools", click here.
Barbara is a survivor of breast cancer and melanoma.

Share your story or leave a comment below.  We would love to hear from you!

HOPE AND CANCER: FEATHERS AND ALL

By Julia Forth

“It’s important to say what hope is not: it is not the belief that everything was, is, or will be fine. The evidence is all around us of tremendous suffering and tremendous destruction. The hope I’m interested in is about broad perspectives with specific possibilities, ones that invite or demand that we act. It’s also not a sunny everything-is-getting-better narrative, though it may be a counter to the everything-is-getting-worse narrative. You could call it an account of complexities and uncertainties, with openings.”

Rebecca Solnit
Hope in the Dark: Untold Histories, Wild Possibilities
 

Writer, historian and activist, Rebecca Solnit’s book Hope in the Dark: Untold Histories, Wild Possibilities, originally published in 2004, has been reissued this year.  Although a book exploring political activism, Ms. Solnit’s articulation of what hope is and is not has a correlation to the idea of hope as experienced by people with cancer and their caregivers.  Hope is something that the Cancer Support Community (CSC) advocated for cancer patients and their families back in 1982 when it began as The Wellness Community and when cancer was mostly dread and death.  Dr. Harold Benjamin and his wife Harriet, who was diagnosed with breast cancer in the 1970s, founded CSC with its free psychosocial services of group support, classes, social activities and education.  The Benjamins knew firsthand the despair that cancer can bring and claimed a space for hope within the arena of life-threatening illness.  The seventies and early eighties were not often times of positive outcomes for cancer patients, or for open discussion of the anxieties that cancer brings to everyone affected by it.

Rebecca Solnit, also the author of Men Explain Things to Me, brings her journalistic eye, deep intellect and activist nature to this topic when she suggests a link between hope and action.  Emily Dickenson wrote, “Hope” is the thing with feathers –  that perches in the soul”.   A true subtlety of life, often lost in the blunt upset of cancer, is that hope stays on the ground with us and lifts us, everything together.  Hope is often thought of as something that safeguards us from gritty reality but, in Rebecca Solnit’s words, it is about “broad perspectives with specific possibilities, ones that invite or demand that we act (emphasis added).”

In 2016, treatments have improved, people are living longer and better, and the word “cancer” need not be whispered.  But, no one would deny that cancer does, at the very least, bring anxieties and sometimes a loss of hope.  Dr. Benjamin’s Patient Active Concept, revolutionary in 1982 and still relevant today, specifically encourages cancer patients and their families to partner with their physicians, to not be passive victims during the course of their disease but to take back control—in short, to be active in their own lives, to be active in hope and to welcome the possibility of change. 

Ms. Solnit talks about hope as containing “openings.”  Hope, as providing an opening for action, is exactly what CSC encourages.  Research now shows that CSC’s services of support and outlook of hope can enhance survivorship.  As cancer patients and families look for places to connect with others and for places inside themselves where the “thing with feathers” perches, CSC remains a place of hope.  CSC was created as a vessel for possibilities; it does not promise that everything will be fine but rather that life, at the very least, will perhaps be more vibrant in choosing to live as a hope-fueled, active participant, no matter the outcome. 


Julia Forth is the Executive Director of Cancer Support Community Benjamin Center (CSC)  founded in 1982 as The Wellness Community in Los Angeles and part of an international network of affiliates that offer the highest quality social and emotional support for people with cancer and their families.  To find a CSC in your area, please visit www.cancersupportcommunity.org or to learn more about CSC Benjamin Center in Los Angeles, visit www.cancersupportcommunitybenjamincenter.org or call 310-314-2555.

New Research from Cancer Support Community

Cancer Support Community was at the American Psychosocial Oncology Society's Annual Conference in San Diego, March 3-5, 2016.  

Below is our Program Director, Shannon La Cava, PsyD, (far left) with CSC Headquarter's Vice President of Program Development & Delivery, Vicky Kennedy, LCSW.

To learn more about the APOS conference, visit their conference website.  
Read more about the Cancer Experience Registry here and about CSC's research here. 
 

Refined and Classic: The True Gift Nature Gave Me

Things don't change. You change your way of looking, that's all.

-Carlos Castaneda

When you look at the natural world around you, the first thing you might focus on are the popular choices-a lush pink rose with iridescent drops of dew decorating its petals or a picturesque sunset that turns the sky a painterly shade of red, grey and white. If you've never really looked at the striations of a weathered tree branch or the rough texture of a sun bleached rock you're missing out on the part of nature that reveals its beauty in an alternative way. In French this type of unusual loveliness is called "Jolie laide" or "pretty ugly".

There have been many famous people who've utilized these traits to their advantage, whether it was playing up a distinctive nose like Barbra Streisand, dark skin and a severe haircut like Grace Jones or a rough, but sensuous face, that's simultaneously soft and hard, like Tom Hardy. Fortunately as our society becomes more inclusive and diverse this definition of attractiveness will replace our traditional standard that used to lean towards perfection and conformity and eschew the different and unique.

One day after returning to the bus stop in front of 74th Street Elementary School, a school I subbed at as a "Special Education Trainee Assistant" from January to March I noticed a tree next to the bus bench with a series of large mushrooms growing out of it. Ordinarily I wouldn't notice something like that, but ever since I was diagnosed with Stage II A Breast Cancer in 2010 and had to view my altered body in the mirror daily, I've become more attuned to things I might have ignored because they looked slightly grotesque and unsightly. Now they fascinate me and I study them enough to see their allure.

As I examined the balletic way the exterior of the dark brown and white mushrooms clung to the rustic, splintery trunk of the tree I couldn't help being inspired by the palette of gray and brown. I took a series of photos of this natural art piece, over a period of time, and shared them with the class I was working with at the school. Despite having to leave early, because I was still recovering from kidney stone surgery, I left a xeroxed copy of one of my photos of the tree for the teacher and wore an outfit inspired by the tree.

Transferring the gray and brown color scheme to clothing, I coordinated a gray wool pea coat over a gray tie-front DKNY cardigan, light gray Sharagano button-down blouse and vintage Levi's flares. I then accessorized my outfit with a beige lace and floral turban and beige Guess sneakers. While coordinating this outfit I became a designer, and utilized something that influenced me (the mushrooms attached to the tree), a color scheme that complimented my skin tone (gray and beige), and I found a way to reinterpret and update a pair of 1970's flares by pairing them with a contemporary coat, cardigan, blouse and sneakers.

After I recovered and returned to the class, the teacher told me the class took a mini walking field trip to examine the tree and she taught a lesson about "the cycle of life" which included "producers" (green plants), "metamorphosis" and "photosynthesis", "consumers" and "decomposers". She also told the students to read Fungi by Mary Kay Carson, The Web of Life by Melvin Berger and The Producers by Melissa Stewart.

Throughout this whole journey the main lesson that stayed with me was how reliable and comforting nature is for rejuvenating the creative spirit and soul in times of despair.

Turning Your Pet Into a Therapy Dog

 


Studies have found that spending time with a pet offers many therapeutic benefits including reduced anxiety and depression, lower blood pressure, and increased levels of endorphin, the feel good hormone.  Read about the wonderful benefits of pet therapy and how Jane Brody turned her pet dog, Max, into a certified therapy dog in this article at the New York Times Well Blog.

Do you want to learn more about pet therapy?  Come join us, March 18th at noon, for an educational workshop on How a Pet Can Provide Comfort and Support with Mitch Golant, PHD, FAPOS, and meet his Pet Partners certified therapy dog, Luna!  Dr. Golant will share how pets can provide enhanced support in working with patients and families.  We hope to see you there!  For more information please visit our educational workshops page here. 

Why Cancer Is 'Gone' Discourse Doesn't Help Cancer Patients

December 7, 20154:50 PM ET       

Barbara J. King

 

 

Photo by Matt Rourke/AP

 

Read article at:

 

http://www.npr.org/sections/13.7/2015/12/07/458824962/why-cancer-is-gone-discourse-doesn-t-help-cancer-patients?utm_campaign=storyshare&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_medium=social

 

Cancer Moonshot - Is Now Finally the Time?

 

Kim Thiboldeaux, CEO of the Cancer Support Community, recently published a post urging us to commit to making 2016 the year that we finally combat cancer. With the advancement in cancer research and treatment, the passing of new legislatures, and the support from public figures like President Obama and Vice President Biden, there is no better time than now to aim for the moon. 

In her post, Ms. Thiboldeaux wrote, “In 1971, President Nixon declared a War on Cancer and signed the National Cancer Act of 1971 . So why, 45 years later, is curing cancer the nation's new moonshot? We are seeing more targeted therapies, less toxic therapies, and a wider range of second and third line treatment options when other approaches fail.  But back to the question, why now? For starters, as both the President and the Vice President have stated - this is personal. Last year, the Vice President lost his son Beau, age 46, to cancer, and in 1995 President Obama lost his mother to ovarian cancer. And as Vice President Biden wrote: "It's personal for me. But it's also personal for nearly every American, and millions of people around the world. We all know someone who has had cancer, or is fighting to beat it. They're our family, friends, and co-workers." At times, these kinds of personal experiences - and perhaps the great tragedy of losing a child - become the drivers and motivators to muster the will to accomplish great things."

Read the full article at Huffington Post.

Workin' It at Work with Style"

   

"Today's women dress so badly because they all follow fashion," said Biba. "Excessive interest in clothes makes women dress less well and all look the same."

 

Before I was diagnosed with Stage II A Breast Cancer in 2010, I didn't see myself apart from any other struggling fashion/feature writer, trying to support myself as a Special Education Instructional Assistant for a Southern California school district, until I had to adjust to my new work wardrobe. On the first day, at the elementary school I would be assigned to for five months, I wore a nice short-sleeved black top with cuffed wide-legged pants by Ann Taylor. To me, my outfit looked upscale and casual, but also stylish and unique enough to express my individuality. Surprisingly the teacher I'd be working with told me, "You look very nice, but after today, I'd dress down for this job, because it can get very messy and you don't want to ruin your clothes."

 

When I looked at my new co-workers, and saw them clad in jeans, khakis, and other cotton pants, t-shirts, pullover tops and sweatshirts, I felt uninspired and confused about how to adjust to this work setting.

 

To survive this transformation I created my own version of casual wear with vintage jeans and other pants bought and thrift and off-price stores, kitschy t's, classic button-down shirts, vintage cardigan sweaters, fitted hoodies, shrugs, slogan pins, black rubber bracelets, sneakers and men's lace-up shoes. A little bit street and a lot retro it allowed me to be myself without getting lost in a style that's become too sloppy for sartorial effectiveness.

 

Recently, when I read Betty Harleich's book Secrets Of A Fashion Therapist I ran across this unforgettable quote, "Do remember that even casual clothes can (and should) look neat." While I don't necessarily agree with her advice "to not wear leggings to work", I think you can wear them in a professional setting if you wear them with a lovely bohemian blouse, structured top or over-sized sweater that comes down to your mid-thigh area. You can also wear them with a colorful poncho, soft cardigan sweater or tailored blazer. Audrey Hepburn really gave leggings and skinny pants panache with simple boat neck tops, crisp button-down shirts and ballet flats. If you wanted to update her style for 2015 you could pair black leggings with a striped long-sleeved pullover, men's cardigan layered over a button-down, or a vintage sports coat and a plain white pullover. This is also an easy look to pull together if you have to see your doctor, go in for surgery or visit  the chemo suite during your cancer journey because the leggings are easy to put on and remove, the pullover and button-down disguise unsightly scars, bandages and drains, and the cardigan sweater and blazer provide extra warmth in chilly hospital rooms.

 

As a Special Education Instructional Assistant, despite being in a more laid-back work environment, I never wore leggings for that job, but on the days when I was "on assignment" as a fashion/feature writer I've often worn them for comfort and ease. The day I went into Vintage On Venice to arrange an interview with the owner for a store profile I wrote for www.hubpages.com I wore leopard print leggings with a white button-down shirt and a vintage black and white pinstriped double-breasted jacket by Norma Kamali.

 

Wonderfully flexible and sturdy, I discovered this same versatility later when I layered a solid black pair of leggings underneath a long orange and white striped skirt, that I coordinated with an orange, black and white striped t-shirt and orange, black and white cardigan sweater. This outfit worked beautifully for the position I currently have as a Special Education Trainee Substitute, for another major Southern California school district, because while my daily schedule is as rigorous as it was at my previous job, I'm not required to "dress down". Since this is the first job I've had, after being diagnosed, this change from "overly casual" is refreshing. During my pre-cancer days wearing relaxed garments and looking like you'd just just rolled out of bed was a trend that wasn't the norm yet, but since then it's become an unsightly phenomenon I can't wear without feeling slovenly. Once I developed this mindset I realized I was doing myself a disservice by leaving the house looking like I didn't care anymore. I didn't see how I would continue to heal physically and emotionally if I didn't dress with care and respect. 

 

The way cancer changed my mind about being a conformist without an apparel and life plan was to give me a goal to work towards everyday, even if it was something as basic as getting dressed. Driven by a desire to thrive and survive, five years after I was diagnosed, I consistently  challenge myself to become a better person I hope in the future. 

A Week's Worth of Style:

"It's harder to dress well now."

-Biba

 

I don't spend a lot of money on my clothes, and even though I'm inspired by high-fashion magazines, books, classic films, T.V. shows like Downton Abbey and Empire and chic people I see on the street, I still coordinate my own outfits to reflect my mood. Below is an example of what I might wear during the work week. I hope it inspires you to experiment and find your own style.

 

Monday:

Gray DKNY tie-front cardigan shrug over white ruffled front button-down shirt and gray pinstriped cropped pants, accessorized with multicolored Mondrian design ankle socks, black Born shoes and a black and gold charm necklace.

 

Tuesday:

Burgundy plaid button-down over denim skirt, accessorized with a red, white and brown silk scarf, red and white ankle socks and beige Guess sneakers.

 

Wednesday:

Navy-blue Thakoon for Target short-sleeved top with beige Marc Jacobs pants, accessorized with beige cat ankle socks, beige ankle boots, a silver necklace and bracelet set, a blue and silver bracelet.

 

Thursday:

Blue and white Hello Kitty souvenir t-shirt with a long black skirt, accessorized with black ankle, black shoes and Hello Kitty jewelry.

 

Friday:

Brown Dries Van Noten button-down shirt with leopard pants, accessorized with black Converse, a brown Coach belt and gold jewelry.